Review – Is it a Scam or Legit?

$0.00-17.62 / month









User Base



  • Second-largest membership base of all the 'adult' dating sites
  • Hyper-selective search options
  • Highly focused niche
  • Free forum access to potentially connect with other, local members


  • Definitely NSFW; you'll want to turn off video and sound when joining
  • Watch the fine print for maintenance fees and marketing requirements
  • Lower than average response rate
  • With a large number of members come scammers and fake profiles
Bonny Albo

If you want to meet someone for an alternative arrangement, partnership or sexual encounter,  you’ll probably get all excited reading this review. It’s got more members than any other kinky dating site on the planet, for starters.

Their prices are hefty however, and few members respond to messages sent, even as a solo female member contacting solo males. My best tip gleaned from this ALT review? Sign up and try out the free forums first, then pay to gain access to folks’ contact information.

Need more tips and suggestions, or, want to share your own experiences, successes, and concerns? Read on, or scroll to the very bottom for the comment section to rate and review.

From ALT: “ALT is everything you ever wished for in an active online fetish, BDSM, and bondage lifestyle community.”

Demographic: Singles and couples above the age of consent looking for alternative, kinky or BDSM-based relationships.

Sign-Up Process

To sign up, first you must perform a quick search of, which takes mere seconds – if it weren’t for the dizzying array of choices available.

Men, women, couples and groups are all welcome, as are many fetishes, so just scrolling through the lists can make for some fun introspection. Once you’ve chosen your options, you’ll receive a limited list of profiles that meet your criteria.

Note, however, that each time I’ve searched ALT, the profiles I see when I sign up seem to disappear as soon as I pay for access. Sure, there are lots of folks in my geographic area, just folks other than the ones I saw online when I first perused. Take from that what you will.

Look and Feel

ALT is a heady site, without question, and so just looking around at what’s available can make any kinkster swoon. Everything is easy to find and access, and there’s no shortage of options to choose. The only ads on the site relate to review offerings, such as profile enhancements or adult videos.


For ‘standard’ members (read: non-paying) the search options look great; however, they’re severely limited.

Once you pay for a membership though, wowza. You can search by almost any imaginable fetish, demographic, location, physical feature and BDSM-based interest. Few dating sites offer a search function this robust to their members.

Connecting with Other Members

I automatically assumed I’d get a deluge of emails once I signed up, just for the sheer fact I’d listed myself as a single female.

And I did.

Over 100 couples, single men and even single women sent me notes within the first week, however few replied to the messages I sent out, with a response rate of less than 35%.

Yea, this didn’t bode well for my review. App and Mobile Options

ALT belongs to the FriendFinder network (yes, the same company as BigChurch and AdultFriendFinder). That means they all share an app.

So, grab their iPhone app via iTunes, or the Android version right as you log into the ALT site. You can also pay for your membership directly through the app.

How Much Does Cost?

ALT offers two different memberships: Standard and Premium.

Standard memberships are their version of ‘free’ memberships, and they include only a tidbit of access to the site. You can create a profile and (minimally) search profiles, but almost anything else will require a paying membership.

One trick to see if the site is worth your time is to find the forums; they’re a haven of members (usually nearby) looking to arrange, host and meet up with others on the site – all without paying a cent to access.

If you’d like to contact folks one-on-one however, here’s how much it’ll cost you:

  • 3 months of Silver service, charged at $14.09/month. Total cost is $42.27, billed all in one lump sum;
  • 12 months of Silver service, charged at $9.79/month. Total cost is $117.47;
  • 3 months of Gold service, charged at $17.62/month, with one month free. Total cost is $70.47;
  • 12 months of Gold service, charged at $9.79/month, with two months free. Total cost is $176.23. accepts Ukash, checks, money orders, Visa, Mastercard, Discover and Diners Club (all credit cards via online, mail or fax payments), and SMS payments.

Terms of Use and Privacy Policy

The terms of use and privacy policies were both comprehensive and sound, with a few things out of the ordinary (or at least, important to know) to make a note of:

  • ALT uses automatic billing practices, which means your method of payment will be billed automatically two days before the end of your service term unless you cancel with their service;
  • Your contact information may get shared with ‘partners’ of the site, unless you opt out of partner emails when you sign up for, or from your dashboard. Alternatively, you can email for assistance with your personal information getting removed from any mailing lists;
  • You can cancel automatic billing after logging into the site and accessing the Billing History page;
  • If you don’t access the site for 180 days, ALT may charge you a $5/month ‘maintenance fee’; and
  • You can cancel your contract (read: payment) by midnight within three business days of having signed up, without penalty or obligation.

The Bottom Line on This Review

Do I recommend Alt? Only if you’re really, really struggling to meet someone and can’t in the local kink scene otherwise.

Sign up though, flesh out your profile (excuse the pun) and then head to the forums. Wait to pay for the service until you get a discount code and then use it to exchange information.

Never, ever click on links folks share with you (unless you can type them in yourself), and don’t be starting any sort of kinky relationship without first making sure they’re real – but that’s another article altogether.

Ready to try out Then sign up now. Want to share your own review? Scroll down to quickly and easily share your experiences.


  1. KundaliniRising May 28, 2020
  2. Rahul February 28, 2020
  3. Rob December 15, 2018
  4. Mor September 3, 2018
  5. Maqrol April 30, 2018
  6. Dave March 2, 2018
  7. Dr ML January 11, 2018
  8. George Sloan August 24, 2016
  9. Luvzitgoldnhot April 20, 2016
    • Ian July 5, 2016
  10. tbrok99 January 25, 2016
  11. slavedude December 16, 2015
  12. William The Dater October 29, 2015
  13. zippergirl October 8, 2015
  14. sean October 5, 2015
  15. Derek July 12, 2015
    • Jim October 13, 2015
  16. CountessDenica July 1, 2015
  17. David Forster May 25, 2015
  18. DHOUND April 25, 2015
    • Christa November 8, 2016
  19. HEISMYHUSBAND March 25, 2015
  20. Eugene February 17, 2015
  21. Paul December 7, 2014
  22. Paul December 6, 2014
    • Paul March 12, 2015
    • JackMeoff February 15, 2016
  23. Bill November 11, 2014
  24. Adored45 April 11, 2014

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